STEP 4: Seek Relief for the Discomforts of Pregnancy and Birth

Nothing woke him up-not the babies, not my yelling at him, not the nurses, or the cleaning people. He didn't wake up when the doctor came in to check on me, when our breakfast tray arrived, or when we had visitors. He finally woke up with my father looming over his bed checking to see if he was alive. Keith slept like this for several nights that first week.

Sleep deprivation and stress may have taken its toll on Keith those first few days, but it was not long before both of them felt the impact of having two new babies. The next few months were exhausting, but they worked together as a team to get the job done. Deb nursed around the clock, while Keith did the chauffeuring. Many times, Keith was barely able to pull himself out of his state of deep sleep to get a baby for Deb to nurse. Before falling back to sleep, it was his job to carry the one she had been feeding back to the crib. Before he knew it-it was time to do it all again.

I laughed as they told me Deb woke up one night screaming, "Where's the baby?" They tore the bed apart looking for the missing baby.

 

When the bed was stripped of all covers and found to be empty, they made a mad dash to the cribs. There they were... sleeping like angels. Who took the baby back? Deb and Keith often wondered if they were losing their minds along with their sleep.

Getting the kids changed and fed was not all Deb and Keith had to contend with during those early months. Erik (formally known as BamBam) was extremely fussy compared to Becca (formally known at Pebbles), and at times, he cried for hours on end. He spit up excessively after each feeding and rarely slept. Since Becca had none of these symptoms, they assumed it was not related to what Deb was eating, but more to a biomechanical problem within Erik. After all, looking back at their birth, Becca had a nice gradual descent through the birth canal. Erik, on the other hand, found himself asleep one minute, being shoved downward the next, and then had a rapid flight out of the birth canal. Also, it's possible Deb's unrelenting reflux was due to the abnormally high position Erik maintained in the uterus. Who knows what type of physical stress he endured in his cramped position above Becca?



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